Who Do You Need to Forgive?
Curt Skene’s In2Win! Career Coaching Supplement.

We all know people make mistakes and no doubt you have been the victim of some along your career. However, what can make the biggest mistake worse is your inability to let it go. Whether you did something you now regret or someone did it to you, there is no value in holding on to the negative energy that is haunting you.
You may be angry because of your termination or the manner in which you were treated in the past but the best action is to forgive, forget and move on. No one knows why others do things but too much emphasis on this will simply drain you of what you need the most—enthusiasm to move yourself forward. Perhaps the most important person you need to forgive is yourself.
What happened has passed, you need to learn and grow from the lesson. Take a moment to look back at what happened and find forgiveness, then let it be. When you look deeply you begin to understand and find compassion, when this happens you can find forgiveness.
Consider how forgiveness will lead you down the path of physical, emotional and spiritual well-being. Forgiveness doesn’t mean you condone the action or agree; it simply instills confidence within you and removes that feeling of weakness, guilt and pain that can hold you back. From this moment forward always take the high road as it demonstrates class and frees you to be brilliant in what you do.
Repairing an old relationship can restore both peace of mind and a reference or connection you may need.
Why I Wrote This Page
Because unresolved anger doesn’t stay in the past the way you’d expect. Replaying an old injury doesn’t process it, it re-triggers the same stress response every single time, which means you’re not remembering what happened, you’re reliving it, over and over, without ever getting closer to resolution.
This is why grudges are so exhausting to carry. It isn’t the original event costing you energy anymore, it’s the daily replay. Forgiveness isn’t about deciding the other person was right. It’s about ending a loop that’s draining energy you need for your search, and giving to someone or something that no longer deserves it.
The person you need to forgive most often isn’t the one who wronged you. It’s yourself, for whatever decision you keep replaying and judging in hindsight.
Action Steps
- Name specifically who or what you’re still replaying, out loud or on paper. Vague resentment is harder to release than a named one.
- Write the story from the other person’s perspective, not to excuse them, but to break the loop of only seeing your own side.
- Set a real decision point: choose a day you’ll consciously let this go, and treat it like an appointment with yourself.
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